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My Jerry of 62 Years

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credit for photo to Buxton Photography

Vividly I recall the moment. Tulsa was the place where my eyes first swept across  his image.  A chapel service. Apostolic College. Both of us students. A number of days (maybe weeks) later, I looked across a room and had this “knowing.” I would marry him.

And I did. Sixty-two years ago. At Swan Lake he had asked the question, and on June 27th in Marshfield, Mo. a pastor said his words, we told our vows, and we became a couple.

Doubtless God ordained this coupling, for our lives together have been unusually happy, and I like to think we have made positive contributions to God’s work, and to our society in general. I know he has. He has taught in both public and private schools, pastored two churches, founded a still-thriving Christian school in Rialto, CA., then when he was 75 years old, well after he had officially retired, we went to Lake Havasu City, AZ. and there he planted a church. When we left 3 and 1/2 years later the group averaged 40 to 50 people, and our top attendance had been 92. Statistically, this represented a remarkable accomplishment.

Husband. He was–and is– my husband. I was young, so very young, lacking a few days being 18 years old, naive, not worldly-wise at all; I could have been utterly fooled. That June night as I changed into a lovely negligee in the small bathroom of the Circle C motel we had selected at random as we traveled on our three-day honeymoon toward Kentucky where we had our first revival scheduled, I recall a panicky moment. For a sudden understanding had come to me. I really did not know this man with whom I was about to share a bed.  (No one knows. Ever. For scarcely do we know ourselves.) But God had directed both of us. We had listened, and today find ourselves elderly, showing a few physical imperfections, happy, still full of faith in each other, and in God, who throughout all these years as been the center, the core of our home.

We started with little. Everything we owned was in that car of Jerry’s –well, it was sort of his, his and the finance company’s. One suitcase held all my clothes, Jerry’s outfits were meager, and his wallet was far from bulging. My dad had cast a doubtful eye on the car tires, and before the wedding had seen to a new set being mounted. We climbed, stared-down challenges, were faithful, kept our vows, and that wonderful husband God gave me has carved out for us a beautiful home. Our four children are of the highest calibre, all God-fearing, upright peoples of this earth. Our grandchildren are beautiful and smart. They leave notes around when they visit and occasionally they call us. Our little greats show promise, no doubt on their way to being exceptional!

No better husband could ever be than my Jerry. He is kind, thoughtful, giving, handsome, consistent, romantic, grateful, and humble. He is a man of God. How blessed, unusually blessed I am.

And so at this moment, in this way among others, I will say I love you to my charming, unusual man, My Jerry. My lover. My husband. Happy anniversary!

By Shirley Buxton

Still full of life and ready to be on the move, Shirley at 81 years old feels blessed to have lots of energy and to be full of optimism. She was married to Jerry for 64 years, and grieves yet at his death in August of 2019. They have 4 children, 13 grandchildren and 11 great-grandchildren...all beautiful and highly intelligent--of course. :)

24 replies on “My Jerry of 62 Years”

Happy Anniversary!
What a remarkable sketch of your beginning and your many years together as husband and wife. Beautifully written as always! You are blessed!
Johanna

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Happy anniversary Bro.and Sis. Buxton. You two are the most amazing Godly example I have ever known. Your children are so blessed to have you for parents. I hope I grow up to be just like you Sis. Buxton. Love you both so much.. Dean and I are also going on a cruise on our 50th in February..

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Happy Anniversary to our friends!! Congratulations on 62 years!! Where have the years gone? It seems like yesterday we went on a cruise to celebrate your 50th and the celebrating couple didn’t make the cruise!! Love you both!! So blessed to call you friends!! May you have continued health and happiness!!

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Never forget that 50th with Jerry winding up in the hospital the day the cruise ship sailed. Alas, alas. Onward we go, however, and here we are, far down the road. Love you two so very much.

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Happy Anniversary to a wonderful Christian couple that we truly admire. You both had a large impact on our lives. We love you and are blessed to know you both. Enjoy your very special day. The Grogans

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This was so beautifully written and you can feel the special love you have for each other…my husband and I, also, share this kind of love and have for sixty years.
Today I celebrate my 80 th Birthday and so happy to say that I am eighty because just three years ago I almost lost my life…but my God still has a purpose for me.
I celebrate you and your sweet husband this day..HAPPY ANNIVERSARY 🎉💞🎊💕😍

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