The Perils of Sexting

I sat in the seminar and listened. For some reason, the speaker asked that the taping be stopped as she spoke about the subject.

“Sexting,” she warned. Quizzing the mothers in the group, she continued: Are you familiar with sexting? Are you aware that, on the internet, young people are sending nude pictures of themselves? Do you know they’re photographing intimate parts of their bodies? Do your children really need a cell phone? Do they need the texting feature if you decide that indeed they need a cell phone?

Ask Albert and Cynthia Logan about sexting. Cynthia has come forward with a plea for restrictions on these activities. On July 3rd last year, her daughter bildeJessica, an 18-year-old Sycamore High School senior hanged herself in her bedroom, after having sent a nude photo to her boyfriend. She was Albert and Cynthia’s only child.

Now, Jessie’s parents are attempting to launch a national campaign seeking laws to address “sexting” – the practice of forwarding and posting sexually explicit cell-phone photos online. The Logans also want to warn teens of the harassment, humiliation and bullying that can occur when that photo gets forwarded.

Cynthia Logan and Parry Aftab, an attorney and one of the leading authorities on Internet security and cyberbullying, plan to attach Jessie’s name to a national campaign to educate teens about the dangers of sexting.

Aftab, based in New York, is the catalyst for a network of volunteers working to stop cyberbullying. She operates two Web sites:, the world’s largest and oldest cyber safety organization, and

More here.

After Jessica sent the nude picture of herself to her boyfriend, he in turn sent it on to other people. When Jessica learned of this, she was embarrassed, and according to her parents, her whole personality changed.

Pressure is on young people to join in this lewd and dangerous practice.

A national study by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy revealed that 1 in 5 teen girls or 22 percent say they have electronically sent or posted nude or semi-nude images online of themselves.

Some area school resource officers and principals estimate that at least half of the students have an inappropriate photo on their cell phone.

It was her mother who discovered Jessie hanging in her bedroom.

I’m using this news story as a base for voicing my own concerns about our young people and the challenges they face in this increasingly knotty and convoluted society. I am raw with grief, anyway, and feel compelled to bring this issue to your attention. As parents and grandparents–as citizens of this bewildering world–we must be ever mindful of our children; attentive and hawk-eyed. The degree of watchfulness that served well prior generations is not enough today. Extreme vigilance must be our mantra; courage and grit our formula as we guide our children through these perilous days.

8 thoughts on “The Perils of Sexting

  1. mr awnsers

    To stop kids from making these mistakes parents need not only the oversight but the power over there phones, to see there childrens activity at any time, via the parents cell phone. If children think there parents are or may be watching they won’t atemt such activities. PS trust is earned by observing


  2. Just for the record, I believe the marriage bed is undefiled and it is acceptable for a married man and woman to look upon each other. Choosing to take nude pictures of oneself and sending them via e-mail, phone, or any other electronic source is quite risky and, in my opinion, a poor choice. It becomes pornographic when one betrays the other by publishing the pics to a public site. That caused the divorce I previously mentioned.


  3. pornography |pôrˈnägrəfē|
    printed or visual material containing the explicit description or display of sexual organs or activity, intended to stimulate erotic rather than aesthetic or emotional feelings.

    Jana and CM, thank you for your responses and interesting comments.

    While I agree, CM, that a man looking at his nude wife is not porn, I believe the sending of such images over a telephone may take such viewing to another level. Is that porn? I’m not sure, but we all agree that such action is foolish and irresponsible…


  4. Married people are a different story. Bad choices…absolutely.For married people to transfer pictures through a phone or interent connection certainly shows an absence of sound judgment but I dont think it constitutes porn. These decisions lack discretion and prudence but I dont think a man looking at his wife is porn.

    Now when it is 2 kids that are not married thats a whole other story.

    I dont think sexting is the problem. Its a consequence of the problem. The problem is that our world has no regard for God. Self is esteemed above all.

    Just my opinion.


  5. Sexting is a serious problem that affects more than young people. I heard of a married couple who were sexting to each other until one of them found out the other had posted the personal pics on a dating service profile. Sexting was responsible for divorce and destroying a family. It is perplexing when these same people think pornography is bad. What?!?!? Sexting is pornography. So, the next question, is pornography acceptable if you know the person? IMO, no.


  6. Anna, thank you for your response, especially for the added warning that youngsters who participate in these activities can actually be criminally charged. This practice of sexting is an appalling development among us.

    Perhaps even more frighting is there are some who think it may be a little silly, but not at all dangerous. In the early days of March Susan Wagner entitled a post “Sexting isn’t all that dangerous.”

    I continue to be astounded at the blinders Satan has tightened around much of the world. In far too many situations sin is no longer regarded as sin, but as a cute little plaything…maybe silly, but certainly not dangerous.

    What is wrong with this world?


  7. Sis. Buxton,

    It is amazing that you blogged on this today. I had no clue that there was such a thing going on amongst young people and I work in a college! I only learned of it because I picked up a magazine this weekend (that I never normally buy) to read an article on Sarah Palin. In addition, it carried an article on sexting. I was absolutely floored to be honest.

    The second part of this story is that the teachers in school are now turning in students who are involved in this practice to the law. Not only are these teenagers being turned into the law, they are possibly going to be charged from here on out with child porn charges and could be labeled as sex offenders. There is discussion of how to prosecute those posing in the pictures as well as those circulating the photos. Words such as pedophilia, child porn, pornography and so forth are being attached to this activity and it is prosecutable by the law. It is dangerous, innappropriate and unethical from all aspects.



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